Updated: Sep 20
Yes, Yes, Yes it’s that time of year again. It’s the time of the year where all over social media, the TV adverts and billboards there is talk of Valentine’s day! The day some people look forward to from the 1st of February, whilst others totally dread this time of year. This blog post is to encourage the singles who may dislike this time of year & those who may be in a relationship but feel as though they are still single.
Another Valentines day and still single?
Some of you probably spent this time last year convinced that this Valentine’s day you will not be alone, in fact you might have even planned where your new boo will take you. But here comes another Valentine’s day and you are gutted you won’t be going to the shard or to the theatre on a date as you hoped. Someone reading this post may have just come out of a relationship and you did not expect that you would be spending this Valentine’s day alone. Listen, it is not the end of the world. Remember, it is just one day and not worth you being miserable over. Yes, it might be that one day which reminds you that you are single, but instead let it be a reminder that you are reserved and still being prepared for that special someone. Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4).
Should I just settle?
Single people find themselves often asking themselves this question, should I just settle? Some will even settle just so that they can go on a date this Valentine’s day to post on Instagram or Snapchat, or to tell their friend all about their date night or late night. Do not let loneliness this Valentine’s day cause you to settle or to end up in a situation that you will regret. Remember that you are a King or a Queen, so do not let the excitement of this one day cause you to be in circumstances that can be avoided. If you need to come off social media on the day or ignore certain DMs before the day in order to guard your heart or avoid any temptations then do so. Focus on being patient & wait on God’s timing - Remember patience is a virtue. God has made everything beautiful in its time (Ecc 3:11)
Are you looking for someone to complete You?
I just want to encourage those of you who may be single with a few ways to enjoy & maximise your single season. I want to let you guys know that this season may go very quick for you and before you know it you are moving into another season, such as Courtship or Marriage. Let us enjoy our single season as once it has past, there is no going back. There is no way you can go back in time, or retrieve back lost time.
Ways to enjoy your single season:
– Enjoy where you are, laugh & be grateful for the blessings that you have
– Use as much of the free time you have to explore and do the things you enjoy doing
– Love and Enjoy the people in your life
- Build positive friendships
Ways you can maximise your single season:
– Allow God to help you build your character
– Get your finances in check
– Serve others with your gifts
– Discover & Walk in your purpose
– Pray and speak positively into your future marriage & for your future partner
– Spend time with your loved ones i.e. your family, your friends, & even your associates
-- Do the things you have always wanted to do and stop waiting for bae
-- Travel & Explore
I would also love to hear ways that you have enjoyed this season, whether you are still single or now married so make sure to leave a comment below!
Final Word of Encouragement…
Do not dread this Valentine’s day and do not hate the fact that you are still single. In fact, enjoy it like you should enjoy every other day. You may not be going on that Romantic date, but you can enjoy a movie or some time with your friends or even with yourself. In fact, it falls on a working day, so go about your daily activities, enjoy the day and remember that you are special! You do not need a date on Valentine’s day for you to know that.
I pray that I have encouraged someone who may be struggling as a single through this post. If you haven’t already, then feel free to read my previous blog post Season of Singleness.. for some more encouragement. You do not have to be miserable during your single season, believe me you can actually enjoy it, because when you come out of that season, you will wish that you enjoyed the season more. Don’t forget to like, comment and share! Someone else may also need this word of encouragement!