Updated: Feb 9
Oh Love. How we love to talk about love!
I asked myself this question recently, "what is love"? This is a question that I've thought about, a question that I've pondered on, a question I have sought answers to. And what I have learnt is that sometimes there needs to be a journey of unlearning and relearning what love really is, and perhaps relearning again in the different seasons of our life. The world gives you one definition, culture gives you another and then you have your perspective of what love is based on what you have seen growing up. Let's not even talk about your own personal experiences and how they may have messed up your view on what love is.
But seriously, what is love?
Love is Patient
Love is Kind
Love does not envy or boast
Love is not arrogant or rude
Love does not insist on its own way neither is it irritable or resentful
Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing
Love rejoices with the truth
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things
Love never ends.
Yeah, that sounds like a long list. The funny thing is that most of us have read this scripture time and time again. So it's not like we don't know what love really is, but when it comes to the "doing" part... yeah let's not talk about it.
We've all probably gotten to a point where we wanted to give up on love. The idea of love. The reality of love. But I have realised that giving up on love is like giving up on the one who is love, God. For God is love. So let's make that decision to choose love (with the help of God of course). Let's choose to be intentional about loving ourselves, loving others and receiving love from others. But most importantly let's choose to not give up on love, for love never ends. You can do all of the nicest acts in the world, be the most charitable person in the world but if you do not have love, you gain nothing.
We've all had different experiences when it comes to "love". Some good, some bad. And one thing I can say for sure is that it is a journey. A journey of learning, a journey of growing, sometimes accompanied with mistakes, sometimes pain. But we know that in every mistake there is a lesson to be learnt and in the midst of pain there is an opportunity for healing. So what lesson has love taught you?
As easy as it might be for me to say, no matter what your experience may have been, embrace the lessons and allow it to let you grow. Embrace that process of healing, not only for your now, but for your future self and your future generations. This month as we are reminded of the beauty of love, don't give up on love because it won't give up on you. Practice it, cultivate it, walk in it. For faith, hope and love abide, but the greatest of these is Love.